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Beware of the criminal hiding behind God

A woman is harassing, stalking, and stealing from her ex-husband.These offenses are coming from a woman who claims she is a woman of God. He had to flee the home for his own safety and escape the years of living in hell.

Men are victimized just like women but hardly does it get the attention it deserves. Let’s get this stated, under federal and state laws harassment, stalking, and stealing are criminal offenses!

She has stolen this man’s identity on several occasions and has managed to steal tens of thousands of dollars from him. She is not only stalking and harassing him, but she regularly stalks and harasses his family (siblings, parents) and anyone who has come into this man’s life (friends, co-workers). She has gone as far as hiring a PI to spy on him along with his family and friends.

He has received thousands upon thousands of threats from her through emails, phone calls, text messages, and when there has to be physical contact. She has hit him in the past. She managed to get him fired from his job. He had to go because of all the harassment his boss and fellow co-workers were enduring. She has stolen stuff from his new residence. She has said on many occasions she is out to get this man and ruin his life. Stating she will get all his money, he will have nothing when she is through. “Let’s Play!” she cackles.

She has destroyed most of his belongings that were in the home, since he had to leave with nothing but the shirt on his back. His stuff now laying in waste in the basement while she lies to their kids, “Your father did it, I’m not cleaning it up!” Unfortunately the kids are being brainwashed constantly buying into her hate, anger, and lies. Their dad has to reinforce the truth every time they are with him, but once they go back to this woman the brainwashes ensues and somehow she manages to persuade them into complete confusion An endless cycle for him. This from a woman who claims to be a Christian!  She takes the kids to church Sundays with her new religious boyfriend. As a façade, perhaps for the “demons” that lurk inside.

This woman tells everyone God is working with her (not her husband) in a divine plan for her and her children. But then she quietly plots and tortures her ex-husband warning, “Bad people get what is coming to them!” He gave her a nice home. She got to be the stay home mother she always wanted, when most mothers have to work. And yet she never took care of the home or the children. He still had to hire a nanny and a maid. This mother found watching reality TV more useful of her time.

She has stated she thinks she is God. She says that since she has the ability to give birth, she is closer to God. After all, she has a healthy uterus. She must be special in God’s eyes. She says, “God gave me babies. anyone who doesn’t have children did something bad and God is punishing them by giving them a rotten uterus.”

The sadistic part of all this, she uses her children for her own deceit instead of loving them. She interrogates them to give up information about their father and then she uses the information to harass him and any friend he brings around his children. They are little spies for her. She is slowly turning them into the monster she is. She has great power over these little beings and she thrives on it.

It is clear to me she cares less about her children than she does about the power they give her over her ex. She boost her children are everything to her, but they really are not. She is everything to herself. She can’t even provide them with the basic necessities in life, like food. She doesn’t cook for them and she has sent them off to school without a lunch on many occasions. Can you imagine as a young person how vulnerable this would make you feel? She has absolutely no empathy. She just wants bragging rights like she is the best mommy. You may be a mother, but you are no mommy. Your children cry to their father, “She never does anything, dad! We don’t even know if we are going to have lunch for school.” Is this a woman who is coming from a place of God and Jesus? She thinks so.

She won’t allow the children to visit their own grandparents. While she talks a good talk about her own absent mother, she trashes his parents. His parents who have supported them regularly from the beginning. Now she lies and says they are bad people. She is wrong! Grandparents are God’s gift to children for their unconditional love they can give to grand-kids. Something children need for healthy development. The children are stunted in their emotional growth according to experts.

It’s so sad the court is not recognizing how sick this woman is towards her children. They have stated only that she is a compromised parent. This woman who isn’t nurturing or protecting of her children like a mom. She isn’t providing them with the emotional or mental support. a mom would do. Actually quite the opposite, she is poisoning them with a hateful and angry outlook on life. Every time they are with their father they are all confused and angry until he manages to turn them around. My hope is he will always have this positive loving influence on them. His biggest fear is that they will turn out to be just like their mother!

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What is Cyber-Stalking and how to combat it

Cyber-bullying and Cyber-stalking are the same thing. They are serious dysfunctional behavior flaws in a person who causes tremendous danger to their victims. It is a criminal offense even if it rarely gets prosecuted.  Stalking almost always escalates from the initial contact into anything from constant bombardment of hateful and angry slander to physical abuse and even death. Sometimes the death occurs from the stalker themselves and sometimes from the victim who commits suicide to escape the unrelenting torment.

Stalkers are very sick people. They are usually very lonely, insecure, and feel a sense of entitlement for their actions. They also think everyone behaves this way, so in a way they see it as normal. They are not doing anything anyone else wouldn’t do. And they believe the victim deserved it for not placating their wishes.

“According to the Supplemental Victimization Survey (SVS), individuals are classified as victims of stalkers if they experienced at least one of these behaviors on at least two separate occasions. In addition, the individuals must have feared for their safety or that of a family member as a result of the course of conduct, or have experienced additional threatening behaviors that would cause a reasonable person to feel fear.” –Bureau of Justice Statistics

The SVS measured stalking behaviors as:

  1. Making unwanted phone calls.
  2. Sending unsolicited or unwanted letters or e-mails.
  3. Following or spying on the victim.
  4. Showing up at places without a legitimate reason.
  5. Waiting at places for the victim.
  6. Leaving unwanted items, presents, or flowers.
  7. Posting information or spreading rumors about the victim on the internet, in a public place, or by word of mouth.


According to the Bureau of Justice Statistics:

  1. During a 12-month period an estimated 14 in every 1,000 persons age 18 or older were victims of stalking.
  2. About half (46%) of stalking victims experienced at least one unwanted contact per week, and 11% of victims said they had been stalked for 5 years or more.
  3. The risk of stalking victimization was highest for individuals who were divorced or separated—34 per 1,000 individuals.
  4. Women were at greater risk than men for stalking victimization; however, women and men were equally likely to experience harassment.
  5. Male (37%) and female (41%) stalking victimizations were equally likely to be reported to the police.
  6. Approximately 1 in 4 stalking victims reported some form of cyberstalking such as e-mail (83%) or instant messaging (35%).
  7. 46% of stalking victims felt fear of not knowing what would happen next.
  8. Nearly 3 in 4 stalking victims knew their offender in some capacity.
  9. More than half of stalking victims lost 5 or more days from work.


So what can we do as victims of stalkers?

  1. Avoid these people at all cost, don’t play into their hate and anger.
  2. Keep a record and journal of everything that happens.
  3. Keep all emails, text messages and phone calls for proof of the stalking.
  4. Notify the police, even though they most likely will do nothing, at least it’s on court record.
  5. Block the cyber-stalker from all access to your social networking accounts.
  6. Report stalkers to those same social-media companies, so they have a record of the assaults.
  7. Get new email accounts.
  8. Change your phone number and/or block the stalker from calling.
  9. Let close family and friends know of your dilemma in case of foul play. If you know the stalker give these confidants your stalkers name and information just in case it is needed by the authorities.
  10. Talk to a professional or a support group to help you cope with the torture.
  11. Talk to the media about the stalking to make it public knowledge.
  12. And finally, live a happy fulfilled life, it removes the stalkers power over you.
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Removing Trauma or PTSD from your life

Everyone on some level has experienced trauma in their lives. Trauma or PTSD (Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder) happens when we experience something threatening or terrifying in our lives. It can be a car accident, an invasive surgery, being abused as a child, serving in a war, and any victimization including identity theft can leave us with trauma.

What happens to most of us humans is that we don’t properly remove the trauma from our bodies. If we don’t remove this high energy that is produced during a flight or fight experience then we can live a in constant state of stress consciously or unconsciously waiting for the next threat to come and getting triggered by everyday occurrences.

Animals do this instinctually in the wild. According to Dr Peter Levine, “animals spontaneously ‘discharge’ this excess energy through involuntary movements including shaking, trembling, and deep spontaneous breaths.” returning the animal to a normalized state. If an animal doesn’t do this it will die in the wild.

Humans have mostly lost this ability to normalize after trauma because we think too much. We try to rationalize the trauma (denial), we shame ourselves (dissociate), and we fear (immobilize) the trauma which can “disrupt our innate capacity to self-regulate, functionally “recycling” disabling terror and helplessness.”

When the nervous system does not reset after an overwhelming experience we can develop many symptoms such as nightmares, sleeplessness, phobias, depression, chronic pain, immune problems, and the list goes on.

I have been through so many therapy sessions trying to recover from PTSD, trying to fix my mind but what I discovered in my own personal research is that trauma and PTSD are healed through the body not the mind. Once I turned my focus to this concept I started to see dramatic results.

Recognizing my body and the energy that I produced both good and bad brought an awareness that changed my stress levels and reduced my threat response. I was amazed how often I was in overdrive when I thought I was completely normal or calm. I wasn’t. I just had been so used to being on alert it became my norm and this is not good. Techniques I use that are successfully removing my trauma (and let me tell you I have a lot) are:

Tapping; for more info: The Gold Standard for Tapping

SE (Somatic Experiencing); for more info: SOMATIC EXPERIENCING (SE™)

Affirmation Massage ©2014: This is a technique I have developed that really works to relieve chronic pain from trauma. And it is easy because a massage practitioner does most of the work; you just have to be mindful throughout the massage. I took the concepts from both tapping and SE. I repeat body accepting affirmations while I am being massaged by the massage practitioner. As they work through my body I work through accepting my body. For example let’s say the practitioner is working on my calf leg. I will repeat in my mind, “I totally and completely accept and love my leg. My leg is relaxed and free of pain. I love my leg.” You can use whatever affirmation works best for you but it is important to keep this focus throughout the massage and allow yourself to feel your body and accept your body. It works! I have had the nice effects of a massage last weeks instead of days.

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Climb when it comes to injustice

“There will never be a hill you don’t have to climb when it comes to injustice in this world, you just have to keep climbing.” — Ralph Nader

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