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Handy resources for avoiding fraud

Thanks to Caroline Hampton of openeducators.org, I have a list of resources to help when dealing with fraud. In today’s climate fraudulent behavior seems to be the norm from the bullying neighbor to the corrupting scammer. I think these links can help:

Ultimate Online Shopping Safety: The Consumer’s How-To Guide http://www.retailmenot.com/blog/ultimate-online-shopping-safety-and-security-tips.html

Tips to Prevent Senior Scams http://www.caregiver.com/channels/long_distance/articles/SafetyAndSecurity/htm

Working Well with Contractors: 15 Questions that Prevent Fraud & Ensure Satisfaction http://www.homeadvisor.com/r/15-questions-to-ask-contractors/

How to Prevent Child Identity Theft http://www.parents.com/kids/safety/tips/how-to-prevent-child-identity-theft/

How to Spot an Internet Dog Scam https://www.rover.com/blog/internet-dog-puppy-scams/

5 Ways to Recognize an Acting or Modeling Scam http://www.backstage.com/advice-for-actors/backstage-experts/5-ways-recognize-acting-or-modeling-scam/

11 Ways to Prevent Identity Theft While Traveling http://www.com/travel-tips/travelers-ed/11-ways-to-prevent-identity-theft-while-traveling

The Post-Burglary Guide: What to Do After a Thief Strikes Your Home http://www.localalarm.com/resources/post-burglary-guide/

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Identity thief vs. bully

There is pure evil in the world. I thought when I became a victim of identity theft it was the worst monstrosity ever, a never ending financial drain. And it sucked my life for a year, and then I dealt with some Posttraumatic stress, because I confronted her and chased her and tore apart the mail ring that she was a part of; and then of course they were all set free. It doesn’t bother me so much. Now, that I’ve experienced and am experiencing being bullied and it is a far worse crime. It’s living with terror for your safety daily. Much different identity theft, financial terror, than physical terror. As I watch the bully destroy others with no instant way to stop the injustice. It is almost unbearable and hard to live with. But I have a strong heart for justice and I don’t rollover. I “chase” you down bully, I catch you, and then I tear you apart.

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I Rise

I love this poem by Maya Angelou so much I had to share it again. Even though she’s talking about racism, I feel it applies to being the subject to a bully, it feels like the same oppression and terror, but still I rise!

You may write me down in history
With your bitter, twisted lies,
You may trod me in the very dirt
But still, like dust, I’ll rise.

Does my sassiness upset you?
Why are you beset with gloom?
‘Cause I walk like I’ve got oil wells
Pumping in my living room.

Just like moons and like suns,
With the certainty of tides,
Just like hopes springing high,
Still I’ll rise.

Did you want to see me broken?
Bowed head and lowered eyes?
Shoulders falling down like teardrops,
Weakened by my soulful cries?

Does my haughtiness offend you?
Don’t you take it awful hard
‘Cause I laugh like I’ve got gold mines
Diggin’ in my own backyard.

You may shoot me with your words,
You may cut me with your eyes,
You may kill me with your hatefulness,
But still, like air, I’ll rise.

Does my sexiness upset you?
Does it come as a surprise
That I dance like I’ve got diamonds
At the meeting of my thighs?

Out of the huts of history’s shame
I rise
Up from a past that’s rooted in pain
I rise
I’m a black ocean, leaping and wide,
Welling and swelling I bear in the tide.

Leaving behind nights of terror and fear
I rise
Into a daybreak that’s wondrously clear
I rise
Bringing the gifts that my ancestors gave,
I am the dream and the hope of the slave.
I rise
I rise
I rise.
–Maya Angelou

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My Bully has BPD (Borderline Personality Disorder)

“The BPD individual, typically a female (yes, that is documented) is one whose mental state renders her a significant emotional, psychological and often physical danger to anyone in her life, and in particular men with whom she becomes involved romantically.” Or the women who come into their exes lives, which has been my case. I met my soulmate and his last relationship has BPD.

So, I wanted to help warn anyone, especially men, that BPD people are very dangerous people. Their agenda is to be mean, evil, and destroy because they enjoy it. “And one other thing must be incorporated into your understanding of the BPD. They are in total control of what they are doing.  There is no organic factor or deficit in self control that causes what they do. Their acts are willful and premeditated. They comprehend the difference between right and wrong, appropriate and inappropriate, truth and lies, reality and fantasy.” They just don’t care. They love seeing others suffer in pain. And if they manage to destroy another as they laugh about it, throw themselves a party. Another person’s misery brings a BPD pure joy.

“Any notion that they cannot help their actions, which you will most frequently hear from BPD’s or the unscrupulous clinicians who profit from their condition by helping them rationalize their behavior, is completely fraudulent.”

They know what they are doing and they enjoy it!”

“Given the absolute potential for devastation that the BPD brings into the lives of anyone unfortunate enough to be in their path, it is pretty important to understand the prognosis for their condition. There is no psychotropic medication that treats BPD and there is no known cognitive therapy that works with them. In short, they have an intractable condition that is impervious to treatment of any kind. They cannot be helped near as much as they can be avoided…”

“There is a running joke among psychiatric professionals about BPD’s. And yes, we told jokes about serious problems. It is one of the ways clinicians deal with the stress of working with them.  Anyway, it’s a simple one-liner.”

“You don’t treat borderlines, you ignore them. Get away from them!”

Go directly in the other direction. Do not pass GO. Do not collect $200.00. Just get thee…away; chalk whatever losses you suffer up to experience and be grateful about what you could have lost.”

Hear this, and hear it clearly. They are NOT going to get better. Ever! There is nothing you can do, no kindness you can extend, no sympathy you can embrace, no psychological slight-of-hand, nor the culmination of wisdom from your entire life’s experience that you can bring to bear to make a BPD anything other than a major, life draining pain in the ass and a potential nightmare waiting to destroy everything you have, inside and out.”

–credit for this article goes to: Paul Elam an author and founder of “A Voice for Men”, http://www.avoiceformen.com/women/borderline-personality-disorder-sick-or-just-crazy-asshole/

The mother in this story is Julie Garner of Rockville MD. This story is true. The bullying is real. The rest of the names have been protected due to the nature of this story.

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